*Law of Attraction Part 1


Communication between two people is such a complex subject any discussion of it will be left wanting.

Primal man and woman responded to clearly defined laws of attraction, to mate and procreate. Like all animals, early humans attracted a mate in an unconscious way, securing the best genetic blueprint for their offspring to survive in an elementally raw, and unpredictable world.

Over millenia the human being has evolved into a deep and meaningful mystical being, with ancestry and history locked into its genetic chemistry and the laws of attraction now involve a chemical alchemy that is almost impossible to fully understand.

It is the belief of many, far more than Establishment statistics would have us believe, that we are far, far more than just animal. In our evolution we have developed sentience, a knowing and understanding of ourselves in relation to our environment and each other that brings the whys and the wherefores of our existence into constant debate.

It may appear that the laws of attraction between two people can go far deeper than for just the purpose of the continuance of the species. The chemical and electrical responses activated within the human body when two people meet is a veritable ‘Big Bang’ in the biology of man and woman.

Anyone who has experienced an intense and spontaneous attraction to a stranger knows what I am talking about here. Consider the number of people one might pass, see, brush against accidentally, shake hands with, or talk to, in an ordinary day, where no such spontaneous reaction occurs, not even a slight awareness of the other person, and then ask the question why him/her, why right now and why such an intense attraction that seems almost like recognition?

We hear people talk about ‘love at first sight’ or‘seeing a stranger across a crowded room’ and these people bear witness to this extraordinary phenomenum of spontaneous combustion in human communication.

What purpose would this reaction serve? Obviously it draws two people together; it forces an exchange of attention with each other, bringing each one into an interaction, a brief relationship that may only be understood with hindsight, and then only partially.

Very often these interactions are described as ‘it was as though we had known each other before’, or ‘I felt as though I had known them all my life’. ‘All the hairs on the back of my neck stood up’ is another comment and ‘I had a sudden rush of energy, I suddenly got red hot, my ears were ringing and the rest of the world disappeared!’

There is something happening here that is not about procreation, although the sexual response is extremely strong. The sexual attraction is part of the irresistible urge to get closer, speak with this other person, stay in their company. The magnetism between these two people pulls them inexplicably but inevitably together.

And yet, nine times out of ten a drama unfolds that does not lead to a happy-ever-after ending. Another element starts to show itself and the drama is not enjoyable. Antagonism builds, arguments start, the couple find that they just can’t be together, or have a normal relationship, and then it all implodes, is over and is gone.

Where there was once irresistible attraction, excitement, love, passion, then chaos and eventually something close to hatred, the magic is broken, the drama is dispelled and the two people move away from each other swearing never to set eyes on the other one again.

If this happens, something is not understood. Watch this space for a possible explanation into this extraordinary behaviour between two human beings.

Wendy Salter

[original writing]

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*Law of Attraction Part 2


“Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so.”

<Douglas Adams>

The Law of Attraction does two things. The first is that it will attract opposites, to make a perfect whole. Like yin and yang. The second is that like will attract like. This likeness will attract, as a reflection in the mirror, but will then repel as there is no balance.

Supposing, just supposing, the person you are in a relationship with right now is not who you think they are.

You may feel that you have just found the one person in the world who makes you feel special, who attracts you with the most amazing chemistry, or magnetism and that you have ‘fallen in love’.

If you are ‘opposites’, in every sense of the word, you may set up a home and procreate, which is natural, but that’s not what is being discussed here.

If you are mirroring each other, in any way at all, you will eventually repel each other. It seems that the purpose of attraction is to reflect what you are and what you aint. And if you meet someone mirroring something negative, they have arrived for a purpose.

It may be that this person is outside your marriage, or relationship. They may have suddenly appeared from no-where, unexpectedly, and thrown you into a flat spin.

You may be so distracted by this person that you are demonstrating some unusual behaviour. You may be having wild dreams, possibly erotic. You may find that you want to talk to them constantly, day and night, be with them all the time. You may feel that this attraction is out of your control.

Further down the line, you may find yourself acting out of character, doing things you wouldn’t normally do. You may find that this person has got under your skin and now you are having anxious thoughts about where it is going. The happy ending is not in sight. It’s going a bit wrong.

Eventually you may find that you want to shake yourself awake, get out of the relationship and you can’t. You may have realised by now that things aren’t what you expected, it has got complicated, surreal, and you want out. You think that you have made a big mistake and you are seriously worried.

Now, ask yourself these questions.

“What have I learned about myself during this strange time? What have I done, or what has been done to me that doesn’t feel right? What is making me feel angry, hurt or afraid and what am I blaming this other person for?

Right! Got it? Now apply all your answers to yourself. Own every aspect of this experience as a lesson to correct some aspect that is in yourself, that is out of balance and needs to evolve.

This reflection of you has come into your life just for YOU, to bring some experience to the front of your attention so that you can learn and grow.

A Soul Mate is a person whose spirit is akin to yours. They step into a role, or arrive with certain qualities, just to reflect back to you what is in you and some of it may not be nice.

Look in the mirror. See yourself in the other person. It may be hard to see if it is some quality you don’t like in yourself, something you are denying or pretending is not there, or even something you had no idea was there.

The hardest aspect of this process is that the imbalance may be so deeply hidden, created so far back, even before this life-time, that you may have trouble identifying it.

Look in the mirror that IS the other person, the reflection of yourself.

Why fall in love? Because that is the only way we can be pursuaded to deal with this, lured, if you like, into having an opportunity to address this issue. The mechanics of the magnetism, the attraction, what feels like love, is so complex it really doesn’t matter if you don’t know how it works. What does matter is that you love YOURSELF enough to own it, understand it and let it transform you.

And that you LOVE the other person, who now appears to be the enemy, a rogue, a deceiver, a temptress or seducer, a liar or a thief, or whatever. The other person can now go on their way, when you understand. Thank them and let them go. Job done.

This is not punishment, judgment or something that’s gone wrong. It is the part of you that is working for you, to find balance. In a strange way, the person who has found balance doesn’t need to fall in love. The perfect relationship with another is one where both partners mirror all the good aspects in themselves, as opposites. You think that’s possible? The next stage is no relationship, apart from with yourself, as both yin and yang in one Self.

Next time, in Part 3, we will look at the Law of Attraction that brings good luck, windfalls, success, Angels and Divine intervention and miracles.

Wendy Salter

[original writing]

*Law of Attraction Part 3

(if you can see odd lettering above picture it is irrelevant to the article)


Attractiveness suggests loveliness, something that is a beauty in the eye of the beholder.

As discussed in Part 2, the initial attraction in an unbalanced situation soon turns to a grim reality, a not-so attractive scenario where the ugly truth shows itself. That is only one aspect of the Law of Attraction, but one that serves a very important purpose in bringing one’s conscious awareness to some karmic problem.

Karma is a word heard more and more these days as the spiritual human comes to understand the Law of Creation. Whatever one sows, one will reap later, sometimes in a subsequent life where the seed that was sown has been forgotten. Karma is not all bad, although a lot of it is because for some reason we seem to have accumulated a lot of bad fruits. The sins of the father will be visited on the sons, suggests that it is not an immediate thing. The fruit of the seed sown takes time, maybe more than one life-time, to show itself.

Stevenson had no idea his early coal-driven steam engine would lead to wars, death and destruction in the Middle East. The Seneca Indians had no idea that their oily puddle was the tip of a massive oil-berg that would eventually lead to a poison called plastic.

Nevertheless, the Law of Attraction brings us all rewards too, because many seeds that are sown give the sweet fruits of evolution, creativity, enlightenment, Love and compassion, beauty and knowledge.

There may be a time when an act of kindness, generosity of spirit, compassion, self-sacrifice, voluntary dedication, friendship, loyalty, perseverance, bravery, craftsmanship, artistic accomplishment, purity, honesty and more, sows a seed.

Miracles, Divine intervention, Angelic rescues, windfalls, good luck and even synchronicity [serendipity], are the fruits of such seeds. When something really good just drops on your proverbial plate, rest assured you have deserved it. And it may or may not have anything to do with wealth or success, for a reason.

There is a part of you that knows what is good for you, what you most need and what would help you most. And that part is not the part that would like to win the lottery, retire to a place in the sun and live happily ever after with the partner of your dreams, in a huge mortgage-free house with matching pink Ferrari and Porsche parked outside.

The part of you that knows best may know that winning the lottery is what’s good for you – to learn about wealth, financial management, generosity, begging letters, and losing it all again.

The part of you that knows best may know that what you need is a holiday, a break from routine – to get a new perspective on your empty life.

The part of you that knows best may know that the partner best suited to your evolution happens to be a walking god or goddess who steals your fortune, abuses you and takes away your freedom – to help you wake up, deal with that karma and get back on track.

If your Higher Self and your lower self are in agreement, what you think you want may arrive.

If they are not, no amount of wishing, hoping, focusing, making wish-boards, filling out questionnaires on design-a-man/woman/life will ever bring it about.

Good things come because you have aligned yourself with your Highest Aspect. The good things that come may not be material. They may be a sense of contentment and peace, unconditional love from, and for, those around you, experience of harmony and balance. You may find abundance in the form of knowing you have everything you need, spiritual enlightenment, a joy in your work, Grace and fearlessness, love. This is regardless of what you have, have not, are, are not, do or don’t do.

“Remarkable are the Blessings that come from not dreading, not desiring, not hoping, not regretting, not waiting, not rushing, not wanting, not resisting, not being afraid.”

Sri Rameesh Purah

It could be that the Law of Attraction is only one part of the Law of Creation. It pushes us away from that which does not create and pulls us towards that which does.

Wendy Salter

[original writing]

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